That night, as my partner Saliha and I made our way down the snow-blown streets toward Fifth Avenue, I was feeling the somber weight of the third month of the dark Northeast winter, wondering how many days remained until spring would come. A number of years ago, she started asking teenage boys what their closest friendships meant to them and documenting what they had to say.This particular question turns out to be an issue of life or death for American men.
We appeal as human beings to human beings: Remember your humanity, and forget the rest.
If you can do so, the way lies open to a new Paradise; if you cannot, there lies before you the risk of universal death.
People scarcely realize in imagination that the danger is to themselves and their children and their grandchildren, and not only to a dimly apprehended humanity.
They can scarcely bring themselves to grasp that they, individually, and those whom they love are in imminent danger of perishing agonizingly.
It is difficult to overstate the extent to which Russell's thought dominated twentieth century analytic philosophy: virtually every strand in its development either originated with him or was transformed by being transmitted through him.
~ Nicholas Griffin He was the most fascinating man I have ever known, the only man I ever loved, the greatest man I shall ever meet, the wittiest, the gayest, the most charming. This passionate and loving boy-to-boy connection occurs across class, race, and culture.It is exclusive to neither white nor black, rich nor poor.Just a decade before, only one out of five said that.And men are facing the brunt of this epidemic of loneliness. She was hosted by Partnership with Children, a groundbreaking organization doing powerful interventions with at-risk children in New York’s public schools.The work done by folks like Way and Partnership with Children has produced reams of hard statistical data proving that emotional support directly impacts every metric of academic performance — and, as it turns out, every other aspect of our lives as well. My charming and lovely partner was to take me to dinner after Way’s presentation. Niobe Way is Professor of Applied Psychology at New York University and the co-Director of the Center for Research on Culture, Development, and Education at NYU.For men, the voices in Way’s book open a deeply private door to our pasts.In the words of the boys themselves, we experience the heartfelt expression of male emotional intimacy that echoes the sunlit afternoons of our youth.I guess in life, sometimes two people can really, really understand each other and really have a trust, respect, and love for each other. Set against a culture that perceives boys and men to be activity oriented, emotionally illiterate, and interested only in independence, these responses seem shocking.The image of the lone cowboy, the cultural icon of masculinity…